Friday, 11 July 2014

"Their house is a museum, where people come to see 'em..."

No - this most definitely is not a post about The Addams Family, it just happened to be the only quote about museums that I could think of...

Anyhow. Before the kids break up for the holidays, I have been trying to take Gracie to some museums (with Ella as well, of course!). It has been really interesting to see how a 4 year old takes to it all.

I thought I would mention a few of the places we have been over the past few weeks. Whilst reading my (entirely personal) thoughts, the following needs to be borne in mind:

1.  Gracie has visited museums before, her favourite being the Museum of Childhood . It has the right mixture of exhibits and interactive things. It also isn't too big, but has ample space to hurtle around in (the cafe is rubbish, but we will get to that). We go here on a regular basis. This, therefore, is her benchmark.

2. We live in east London, and Gracie attends pre school 4 afternoons a week. Because of this, we tended to stay away from the South Kensington places - it takes too long to get there if you're only going for a morning (we did take a jaunt to sarf London for a museum visit, but more on that later).

3. We didn't do any special exhibitions. This is because these usually have an entrance fee (for the adult, children are usually free).

So, where have we been? The place I wanted to see was the Museum of London. We arrived and, for a £5 deposit, got an Explorer Pack. This was a rucksack containing activities, like I Spy and a jigsaw puzzle. There was also a magnifying glass.
We excitedly entered. We found a carriage pulled by horses. Not the best start. Gracie decided they were scary. To this day, I'm not sure why, as in real life she's fine, and I'm the one who gives horses a wide berth. So we tried another part of the museum. No - "I'm not going there," she declared, "it's too dark". So that was that. We did the jigsaw puzzle, discovered that we had a torch (for all the good it did us), and then went and had some cake (unsurprisingly extortionate, but more on cafes in a bit, promise!).
Definitely one to revisit on my own I think.

We had a bit more luck with the British Museum. Basically, I was dragged round at breakneck speed whilst Gracie shouted out items of interest. To be fair, trying to do the BM in a couple of hours was a big ask. We did pretty well, skipping some of the Ancient Egyptian rooms as they were "too busy. I don't want to go there".

The Horniman Museum was our day-long jaunt, taken with friends. It is a bit of a trek to do by oneself with two kids on public transport, but with others it doesn't seem as far, so we did it - 2 adults and 4 children in total.
That said, it is definitely worth the trip. The kids enjoyed it, and it was a beautiful day so we could also enjoy the grounds, including the musical play area. The music gallery is fun. You can listen to a sample of pretty much every instrument you can think of, and I was able to confirm that, yes, I really don't like the bagpipes.
There is a whole natural history section, which the kids found fascinating. Me - not so much. The massive walrus (which has its own Twitter account apparently) was, er, interesting, but I'm really not a fan of skulls and stuffed animals quite frankly. And I don't need to see a beetle close up, although I liked seeing bees doing their thing. A brilliant resource for kids though, I would definitely go again.

Whilst a student at Trinity College of Music (or Trinity Laban as it is now), I never visited The Wallace Collection, even though it was round the corner (not any more - Trinity is now in Greenwich, and the previous site is now The School of Economic Science. Nope, no idea). I thought it would be interesting to take Gracie, as it is very much a traditional gallery / museum.  Not sure what some of the staff made of us clomping round, although some of them were clearly delighted to see a 4 year old passing comment. I love The Wallace Collection, not because of any of the contents, but just because the collection is so random.
Lots of paintings. Gracie doesn't do paintings, she's more into objects - vases, plates etc. And a lot of the paintings are 16th / 17th / 18th century (yawn). She does seem to be interested if the paintings are of actual people, with a story (so maybe I will try her with the Portrait Gallery). This led to a slightly tricky conversation about Joan of Arc  - for some reason I couldn't bring myself to tell Gracie how she died. The following day she asked her dad. He also skirted round the issue of her actual execution, focussing instead, like I did, on her youth and bravery...
I would (affectionately) describe The Wallace Collection as essentially a well-kept tat shop. Even its own website calls it a "treasure trove". There is an AWFUL lot of armour, some of which you can try on, as well as ornate furniture and the odd sculpture. And LOADS of vases. I seem to remember an inexplicably large collection of spoons on a previous visit, but I didn't see them this time. I suppose I could have made that up...
The baby changing room is also a feeding room, so they also get extra points for that.

But our gem of a find was the Bank of England Museum. No, really. It's small, so won't take long, but is really interesting.
There's a search on the way in, through a metal detector, like at an airport. Then we were given a worksheet. They have several, depending on the age of the participant, so Gracie had I Spy. There are quite a few interactive activities, such as bank note jigsaw puzzles (pictured). There is also a boat game, in which you steer a boat representing inflation. The idea is to keep it steady, and at the end you are scored and find out whether you are any good at controlling inflation or not (insert your own George Osborne joke here).
You can feel a real gold bar and try to lift it. There's also a screen that converts an amount of money from any given year into what it would be worth today.
On the way out, once the pencil is returned, a badge is given for completion of the I Spy. A nice, metal badge / pin (pictured). A good way to kill some time in the City of London. There's no cafe ripping you off either, which I liked.

Which leads me onto another observation about museums. It is absolutely fantastic that most of our museums in London are free. Obviously they rely on donations and spending in the shop (£6.50 for a travelcard / credit card wallet, anyone?), but do the cafes / restaurants really need to be that expensive?
And why does Benugo seem to have a monopoly on supplying museums? Is this the best we can do? They are a constant, overpriced, disappointment. I can only imagine how a tourist must feel, having been suitably impressed by our cultural riches, to be confronted with daylight robbery being passed off as refreshment. Just because the menu is written on a blackboard (or, even worse, the glass that the food is displayed in), it doesn't necessarily follow that the food is any good.

So if you're thinking of taking young children to a museum, I would say do it. But do it in London, where they're free.

And take your own sandwiches.

Friday, 6 June 2014

Doubling Up

When you're expecting a baby, people always ask you whether you've "got everything". When pregnant second time round, the question then becomes "did you keep everything?".
I've always thought that you don't really need a great deal of stuff when you have a baby (although stuff does accumulate really quickly). Whatever you're missing, you can always get creative...

When we had Gracie, she wouldn't sleep in her cot, so we co-slept. Now, with Ella Mae, we do the same. She has a great cot bed which we intend to use for her naps, but at the moment she isn't keen. Like all babies, she likes cuddles, and finds that far nicer than a cot.

Having a baby that likes to be held most of the time is tricky when you have a 4 year old that also needs you. I have mastered giving Gracie a shower whilst wearing Ella Mae in a sling (babywearing is brilliant - it means you're hands-free). But certain things are easier if baby is in her cot.
Lots of parents have a Moses basket for this. It is small and cosy, and can be carried from room to room. You can also put something in it that smells of you, to comfort baby. However, being a "How much?! You must be bloody joking" kind of girl (yeah, ok, I'm a tightwad) means that a Moses basket / carrycot isn't something I would buy if I could possibly help it.
And so, ladies and gentlemen, I give you the cheapskate's Moses basket - the baby bath.

Seriously. I make it snuggly by putting my dressing gown in there. Works a treat. Now I can keep an eye on her whilst having a shower. And the bath is easy to move about, so I can take it from room to room if required. And yes, it is the bath that belonged to Gracie, we kept it.

I'm incredibly pleased with my discovery - after all, weren't babies kept in bottom drawers in the olden days (absolutely no idea whether that is actually true)? And didn't people bathe their babies in the kitchen sink back in the day (ditto)? It's good to make things multi-purpose - for example, we currently use Gracie's old playpen, now dismantled, to hang our washing. It drives me insane to be honest, but no matter...

I'm sure, with a bit of thought, I could come up with loads of things I don't need because I use something else for that purpose. In fact, I think we all could.
Go on, give it a go. You might surprise yourself.

Tuesday, 4 March 2014

Can I start thinking ahead now?

Some of you may remember what happened the last time I was pregnant, and the day my waters broke .
Well, today I am 29 weeks and 4 days pregnant, and my waters are still intact!  Although I actually went into labour when I was 30+1, 29+4 was when everything started.  This is a big deal for me - I may actually have a 'normal' pregnancy this time round.

I do need to make it clear that I wasn't exactly panicking about another premature birth - for a start, I might still have one, and actually, I was lucky in that Gracie was absolutely fine - but obviously it's not the ideal.

So now, I can start thinking about planning the birth I want.  I had been a little bit nervous about thinking things through properly, but now I might start.  That said, I'm not the most forward-thinking of people anyway, so I daresay there will be decisions left to the last-minute again.

Being pregnant second time round is different - mainly because I have a 4-year-old to run around after, and also because I'm now 40 - but let's hope that giving birth second time round will be more on my terms - wish me luck!





Monday, 16 September 2013

Selling tales

This evening, whilst looking at Facebook, I came across a 'Suggested Post' in my timeline. It was for a job. In a hotel. In Cumbria. I'm not currently looking for a new job, I don't live anywhere near Barrow, and I have no experience of working in the hospitality industry. So the idea of this post being in any way an actual suggestion is, quite frankly, ludicrous.

In these technologically advanced times, advertising (because no matter what you call it, that's what it is) has got more sophisticated and creative. When Sky Atlantic launched the most recent series of 'Mad Men', the first ad break consisted of adverts from the 1950s. The final episode of the first series of the excellent French spooky drama 'The Returned' on Channel 4 featured an ad break where all the adverts had French subtitles. Touches like this show that advertisers and marketeers know what they're doing - we are constantly being targeted by companies who want us to wear, buy, eat their stuff.

And this is my problem. There is this need by companies to appear to be tailoring things, finding the right demographic. Now I have no objection to any company trying to sell me stuff I might actually want, nor do I object to people just trying to sell to anyone. What really annoys me is people telling me they've thought about what I'm interested in, when they clearly haven't. Why spend thousands of pounds finding out what I like, and then disregarding that information? If you're going to bother, do it properly.

Ooh a recommendation! You think I might like this particular book because I bought a book by the same author a while ago. That's really nice, but I paid for it to be gift wrapped and had it delivered to a different address...which would suggest that the book wasn't actually for me (yes Mr Evil Amazon, I'm talking about you).

My husband and I have just bought a flat. Registering with estate agents is a case in point. They ask you questions: how many bedrooms, what's your maximum budget, what area are you looking at? They then send you alerts full of amazing properties that don't match the criteria. There is one agency in particular that send texts with my name inserted, clearly presuming that I'm stupid enough to think that I really am the only person they want to sell a flat to.
Do you know what? Just send me everything, I can filter it myself.

There is apparently a company that has come up with an algorithm  that profiles you by analysing your Facebook 'Likes'. That's all very clever, but just reading my posts over the last few months would probably build a more accurate profile...

...which brings me back to this 'Suggested Post' nonsense. Suggested by and for whom? Not me.
Companies are paying for their products to be presented to me in the hope that I will buy them. That's ok. If I like what I see, I might buy something. If I don't, I won't. You have all this information about me and yet you choose not to use it. That's up to you, but don't pretend you have me in mind. You don't. Don't pretend that my buying habits mean I'm your target. I'm not. And please, for the love of god, call a spade a spade. It is NOT a suggestion. It's advertising.

Tuesday, 18 June 2013

XL

As I get older, birthdays generally become less significant. But this week, I turn 40. I'm actually quite excited to be 40, it sounds ever so grown up! I'm not the sort of woman who frets over her age - to be honest, if I were that bothered, I could tell people I was 35...I could easily get away with it - but it is fascinating to think that I have lived pretty much half of my life. Already!

Clearly, the greatest change in my life has been having a daughter. I can now no longer guarantee being on time for anything, and I am never surprised if someone politely points out that I appear to have an Angelina Ballerina sticker on my jacket.
I worried that parenthood might make me neurotic, all that worrying about a little person who completely and totally depends on you. But not so. Is it because of my age? Is it because she had a difficult start, arriving 10 weeks early? Or is because I know I will spend the rest of my natural life worrying about her, so why start now? Who knows, but I'm pretty sure I've been like this throughout my thirties.

For me, I was truly comfortable with who I am once I got to my thirties. And I'm really looking forward to many more decades of doing what works for me and ignoring people around me if I don't value them.
And that's another thing - value. I really think I've learnt about the value of things these past 10 years: of friendship; of time; of sleep; of a half decent bottle of wine...

The older you get, birthdays aren't just about looking forward, they're also about looking back. So here, in celebration of entering my forties, and in no particular order, is what I got up to in my thirties. Obviously, the list isn't comprehensive, but I feel it is representative...

1. Bought a flat
2. Got married
3. Had a baby
4. Wore false eyelashes for the first time
5. Went to a friend's wedding. Their second one
6. Got made redundant
7. Appeared on a quiz show. On the telly
8. Ran a half-marathon

I also learned a few things; mainly, that very few situations are not made better by the addition of one, some or all of the following: gin, pink wine, fizzy wine, tea, red lipstick.
But the biggest lesson I've learned? No matter how many times someone says you look great for 40, it NEVER gets old.

Saturday, 13 April 2013

Cinematic delights

So Gracie and I went to the cinema. Aside from the Parent and Baby screenings that we went to when I was on maternity leave, we've been to the cinema three times now. That's not many times, I grant you, but Gracie tends not to be the sort of toddler that sits still when required.
Our first visit was rather something: a premiere screening of The Croods. Not bad for a first cinematic experience. The only problem with this of course was that, on our second visit, not only did Gracie expect her friend Lily to be there to meet her, she also expected face painting and free snacks...
That aside, the second visit was fine. Because it was Toddler Time, it was £3 for Gracie's ticket. As the accompanying adult, I go free. The film was half an hour long, perfect for her attention span - well, it would have been had they not started the film about 10 minutes early, but you can't win 'em all...
Which brings us to our third, and most recent, visit. A very reasonable £1.75 a ticket meant that I didn't object to paying £3.25 for popcorn, biscuits and a drink for Gracie. To be fair, the cinema did also throw in a couple of free white chocolate buttons. Well, I say "throw in" - Gracie actually just helped herself, and asking her to put them back isn't very hygienic. The film was an hour and a half, so Gracie did well. After three trips though, I can see that she still has a lot to learn about cinema-going:
1. Just because a trailer is more than 30 seconds long, this does not make it a film in its own right.
2. A quiet bit does not necessarily mean that it is the end of the film, especially when you're only a couple of minutes in.
3. Boring bits aren't more interesting if you watch them upside down.
4. Not every film would be improved by the presence of Tinkerbell.
5. Just because a female character is dressed in purple, it doesn't automatically follow that her name is Rapunzel.
I don't know, maybe I'm expecting too much. I guess I'm just going to have to keep on taking her...

Friday, 14 January 2011

UNICEF's response to the nonsense article posted in the BMJ

Dearie me, what a lot of fuss there's been over a particular article in the BMJ, telling us all to wean earlier....Blimey.  Below is a reasonable response to the nonsense, from UNICEF no less....


UNICEF UK response to media reports questioning the recommendation to introduce solid food to babies at 6 months

An article published in the British Medical Journal (BMJ) is being reported in the media as questioning whether exclusive breastfeeding for 6 months is appropriate for UK babies (1).  This article is not based on new evidence but rather a re-analysis of older evidence, much of which is the same as that used as the basis for weaning recommendations from the World Health Organization (WHO) and the UK’s Departments of Health (DH) (2,3)
When considering this analysis it should be noted that three of the four authors have declared an association with the baby feeding industry. Less breastfeeding and earlier introduction of solid food will lead to greater profit for this industry.
There is a wealth of robust evidence that breastfeeding saves lives and protects both the short and long term health of mothers and babies in industrialised countries. Breastfeeding reduces the risk of infections, as well as the risk of diabetes and obesity in children and breast cancer in mothers. It is also associated with improved parenting capability among low-income women, and with reduced incidence of neglect and postnatal depression, thereby improving the life chances of children(4 5 6 7).
WHO recommended the introduction of solid food at around 6 months alongside continued breastfeeding in 2001. This was based on evidence that the early introduction of solid food to babies increased the risk of infection and disease. In 2003, DH also began to recommend introducing solids at ‘around 6 months’, changing from its previous position of ‘at 4-6 months’. The authors of the BMJ article question this recommendation for UK babies. The basis of their arguments is that delaying introducing solid food may increase the risk of iron deficiency anaemia (IDA), coeliac disease and food allergies, and that introducing new tastes may increase acceptance of green leafy vegetables and so encourage healthy eating later in life.

Iron deficiency anaemia
IDA is strongly influenced by iron stores at birth (which is related to the mother’s iron status and length of gestation) and early cord cutting (which is still common and can reduce iron stores by up to 33%). IDA is also associated with poverty and deprivation. Ensuring that the mother is not anaemic and that cord cutting is delayed will in turn ensure that the baby’s own body stores and breastmilk will provide sufficient iron for over 6 months (8).
 The majority of the food commonly introduced to babies in the early months such as cereal, fruit and vegetables are low in iron and will therefore not help prevent IDA. However, if they are introduced before a baby needs them, they will displace breastmilk from the baby’s diet and may thereby reduce the amount of iron consumed(9).

Coeliac disease
Coeliac disease is associated with the early introduction of gluten (from cereals). There have been a number of observational studies which have suggested that the exact timing of the introduction of gluten into the diet may influence the development of this disease. The Government’s Scientific Advisory Committee on Nutrition and Committee on Toxicity of Chemicals in Foods, Consumer Products and the Environment have been asked to analyse the evidence on this issue and its draft statement can be found at: www.sacn.gov.uk/meetings/sub_groups/maternal_child_nutrition/19012011.html
This statement concludes:
Currently available evidence on the timing of introduction of gluten into the infant diet and subsequent risk of coeliac disease and T1DM is insufficient to support recommendations about the appropriate timing of introduction of gluten into the infant diet for either the general population or high-risk sub-populations. However, there is evidence suggesting that not being breastfed at the time when gluten is introduced into the diet is associated with an increased risk of subsequently developing coeliac disease.

Food allergies
The incidence of genuine food allergy (as opposed to food intolerance) is rare (10). There is speculation and some observational data that when there is a family history of true allergy then early introduction of certain foods may be beneficial. Random control trials are now being undertaken to test this theory. Should this prove to be the case (which is by no means certain) then high risk families would need to be advised on a case-by-case basis. This would not affect public policy as applied to the majority of children not affected by allergies.
Introducing bitter tastes
The BMJ paper claims that introducing bitter tastes early will increase the acceptance of green leafy vegetables and so prevent obesity later in life. This is purely speculative.
Breastmilk changes flavour depending on the mother’s diet and so exposes the baby to various tastes from birth onwards. Food preference is also dependant on a number of factors including what is given, how it is given and parental attitude. Current DH recommendations take account of these factors and encourage parents to introduce a range of healthy foods in an appropriate manner (11).

Recommendations
The UNICEF UK Baby Friendly Initiative supports continued research into improving infant health. However, any new research should then be considered as part of the whole body of evidence and any recommendations made should be based on the full evidence rather than on single papers. It is unfortunate that the BMJ press office and the UK media have focused on a single piece of comment which has resulted in sensational headlines and risks misleading parents and damaging infant health.
The DH recommendation is that solid food be introduced at around six months. It is acknowledged that babies’ individual development varies widely and that some babies may be ready for solid food before and after this time. Since the introduction of this recommendation the number of babies experiencing the potentially harmful introduction to solid food before 4 months has reduced.12
Health professionals should continue to support mothers with accurate information based on DH and WHO guidance, helping them to recognise the signs of when their baby may be ready to try new foods, while continuing to breastfeed.

References

1Frewtrell M, Wilson D, Booth I, Lucas A (2011) Six months of exclusive breastfeeding: how good is the evidence? BMJ 2011; 342:c5955 http://www.bmj.com/cgi/doi/10.1136/bmj.c5955
2 World Health Organization (2002), 55th World Health Assembly. Infant and young child nutrition. World Health Organization,(WHA55.25). http://apps.who.int/gb/archive/pdf_files/WHA55/ewha5525.pdf.
3 Scientific Advisory Committee on Nutrition (SACN), Subgroup on Maternal and Child Nutrition (SMCN). Paper for discussion: introduction of solid foods, agenda item: 3. 2003. SMCN/03/08. www.sacn.gov.uk/pdfs/smcn_03_08.pdf.
4 Ip S, et al (2007) Breastfeeding and Maternal Health Outcomes in Developed Countries. AHRQ Publication No. 07-E007. Rockville, MD: Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK38337/
5 Horta B et al (2007) Evidence on the long-term effects of breastfeeding. WHO. http://www.who.int/child_adolescent_health/documents/9241595230/en/index.html
6 Gutman LM, Brown J, Akerman R (2009) Nurturing Parenting Capability: The Early Years. Centre for Research on the Wider Benefits of Learning. http://www.learningbenefits.net/Publications/ResRepIntros/ResRep30intro.htm
7 Strathern L, Mamun AA, Najman JM et al (2009) Does Breastfeeding Protect Against Substantiated Child Abuse and Neglect? A 15-Year Cohort Study. Pediatrics; 123; 483-493. http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/cgi/content/abstract/123/2/483
8 Dewey K, Chaparro M (2007) Mineral metabolism and body composition Iron status of breast-fed infants. Proceedings of the Nutrition Society (207), 66, 412–422 http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17637094
9 Geissler C, Powers H (2007) Human Nutrition, 11th Ed Elsevier


10 http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Allergies/Pages/Foodallergy.aspx
11 Weaning (Department of Health, 2007) http://www.babyfriendly.org.uk/page.asp?page=115&category=10
12 Bolling K, et al (2007) Infant Feeding Survey 2005, Department of Health, London http://www.ic.nhs.uk/pubs/ifs2005